A Father’s Heart – Part 2

Men, our children’s futures…our families futures are being directed by our actions or even our inactions.  As fathers, we need to realize just how powerful we are.  We have an incredible ability to touch the lives of our families for good or for unspeakable harm.

“I pray also the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he was called, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is lie the working of his mighty strength, which he exerted in Christ when he raised him from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly realms, far above all rule and authority, power and dominion and every title that can be given, not only in the present age but also in the onto come.”  Ephesians 1:18-21

We have been given a tremendous power to influence the lives of families.  They need us to be the dad and grandfathers who will have a positive influence on their lives, men who will guide and help them become the men and woman He made them be.

A battle is raging against our families – we must fight the battle and we must win this battle.

“Be self-controlled and alert.  Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.  Resist him, standing firm in the faith, because you know that your brothers throughout the world are undergoing the same kind of suffering.”  1 Peter 5: 8-9 NIV

This battle is raging in four areas:

  • The battle for the mind, which involves a constant assault of anti-Christian values.
  • The battle for the body, which primarily involves sexual sin – pornography.
  • The battle for the family which involves the breakup of the home.
  • The battle for the soul. Never forget that the adversary we face Satan plays for keeps.

He is daily assaulting the hearts and minds of our children with the battering ram of anti-Christian values.

So what’s a dad to do?

I believe in this world that we are living in we need to look at three areas that we need to be radical about.  We need to win this war and we can win this war!


A group of men were standing around discussing which translation of the Bible they preferred.  One liked the old King James because it was so poetic; another liked the American Standard because it was easier to understand.  Still, another preferred The Message because it explained everything so well in today’s language.  They turned to the youngest man in the group and asked him which translation he preferred.

“As far as translations of the Bible are concerned, I guess I would have to go with the translation according to my Dad.  He put the Word to work in his life every day, and that is the translation that I understood best of all.”

“All Scripture is God – breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the man of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.” (2 Timothy 3:16-17)

Equipped…that is what you and I need to be.  Fathers, grandfathers, uncles and mentors how can we equip them?

The Word of God must be part of our lives.  We need to put the Word to work in our lives – our kids need to see Jesus in us, they need “Jesus with skin on.”  They are trying to find their way and need your help.

We need to communicate the Word so our children don’t have to guess what they hold true and valuable.

Communicate: Not beat them over the head with it. Have devotions together and in time you will be able to have a conversation with him about what you just studied.  Ask him a couple questions about what you just read such as he may be reluctant at first but you’ll get there.”

It’s our job to help them grow to be the men and women God made them to be.  It’s our job!

God has plans for them and He needs your help. (Jeremiah 29:11)  Be equipped – be the map – teach the Word – put the Word to work in your life.

What’s a dad to do?  Be a man of the Word!


I think we can all agree that one of the most important things our children need is love.  I love you and proud of you are two of the most important things we can tell our kids

But love is not enough.  Sincerity is not enough.  Good intentions are not enough.  We need to be dads who understand where their children are and the kinds of influences that they face and what is shaping their lives.  What kind of messages are coming into your home?  Are they the values you want for your son and daughter?  Our children need us to clean house now and then.  They may not like it – but you are the father and God will hold you accountable for how you raised them.

In 2 Chronicles 14:3 we read that King Asa “removed the foreign altars and the high places, smashed the sacred stones and cut down the Asherah poles.”  He cleaned house!

Guys we need to clean house!  I’m not talking about the dusting, vacuuming and other house cleaning jobs (although you might help with those once in a while – I vacuum for her and she appreciated it very much. {Card from Dar)

Today, more than ever Satan is out to destroy our families, and as our kids are trying to establish their own identities they run head first into today’s culture.

Expensive toys; unparallel freedom; access to every kind of drug; alcohol; pornography; sexual temptations; bullying; and a media that exposes them to just about every temptation known to man.  He wants to destroy your family.  So what does cleaning house have to do about it?

What are they watching on TV and what are the movies do you let them go to?  What about the computer…where is it?  Pornography – boys getting addicted at young ages, nine years old and yes maybe younger.

Dad, that’s why we need to check things out and take a look what might be invading our home’s and clean house.  (Ephesians 5:15-16 & 6:12)

What’s a dad to do?  Clean House!


No not walls of concrete and brick but we do need walls of protection for our families.

How do we do that?  Pray!  Pray very hard.

I like this from 2 Chronicles 14:11: “Then King Asa called on the Lord his God and said, Lord, there is no one like you to help the powerless against the mighty.  Help us O Lord our God, for we rely on you, and in your name we have come against this vast army.

We Are Powerless When We Are Prayer Less!

No wimpy prayers…manly prayers – pray from your heart.

The other day Darlene and I ran into a guy who as a teenager was having major problems at home including a dad who was abusive.  We talked about his past and how he was doing today…happily married and serving the Lord.  One thing that came into our conversation was the day he asked me this question: Is it okay while riding my bike that I talk to God like I’m talking to you?  My answer was, “of course it is, that’s exactly how he likes us to talk to him.”  What a blessing for us to see him again and meet his family.  God is good!

Not by might, not by power, by my Spirit says the Lord of hosts…”

“Do not pray for tasks equal to your prayers.  Pray for powers equal to your task.” – Philip Brooks

Not easy to be a dad, we need to be praying for the power equal to our task.  This world we live in is a lot of turmoil, all across America it seems that it’s all falling apart.  Let me tell you there is hope in this fractured world and that hope is in Jesus and only in Him.  I love the song that starts out “My hope is built on nothing less than Jesus blood and righteousness.”

Men our kids need to hear us pray for them…their safety, their salvation; for God’s will in their lives.  Pray they would grow to be the man or woman He made them to be.

When we leave the house in the morning: Pray for you wife, pray for your son and daughter, pray for your home with the covering of His blood.  And if you leave early leave or come home late, go to their rooms, and kneel at their bedside, touch their arm and tell them that you love and you are proud of them.  Amazing what a short prayer, a simple touch, and love will do as they face the next day.

So, what’s a dad to do?

Be a man of the Word!  Clean House!  Build a strong defense!

“Be alert; stand firm; act like men; be strong!” – 1 Corinthians 16:13

Sam Mehaffie | srmehaffie@outlook.com | 816-510-9990