Mentoring and The Church

Every Sunday, there are moms sitting in every church crying out for help.  Help for their sons who desperately need male role models and guidance in their lives.

We are facing many problems in our society today, but fatherlessness is one of the biggest, especially when you think how it affects our future families.  Fatherlessness – a relatively new mission field not just in our country, but in our churches.  How sad for a nation that once took pride not only in knowing the Heavenly Father, but also in the strength of the family and earthly fathers.  We’ve come a long way — unfortunately in the wrong direction.

All boys today face huge challenges in today’s society, and they need dads to be there for them more than ever – to be role models, someone their sons can look up to. But what about those fatherless boys in your church, whom are they looking up to?  One of the most reliable predictors of whether a boy will succeed or fail rests on a single question:  Does he have a man in his life to look up to?  Too often the answer is no.  What can you do about it?  What can your church do?

The answer is simple: Start a mentoring program in your church.  This is a mission field in your church; you don’t have to go to another country, get shots or spend a lot of money.  That boy is right there walking the halls of your church.  It is essential that we reach out to the fatherless in our churches; they are part of our church family and we can’t let them down. Many of these boys come regularly with their moms, some may come with their grandparents while others may only come to youth group – your youth pastor knows who they are, just ask him.

We are losing our boys in record numbers to the world.  Satan is working triple time to destroy them…he does not want them to become the men God made them to be. The church cannot continue to let the world be the only teacher our boys have.  The church needs to step up and take the lead position in reaching these boys and young men.  Church, you can do it.  It’s what we need to do.  

What would happen if a number of men in your church decided to each pray regularly for a young man?  To be his lifelong prayer partner, cheerleader, encourager and friend.  Someone he could call when he needs advice like how to stand up to peer pressure, or how to handle being in a home that is a war zone; later on in life, he might need encouragement when a marriage isn’t going well or he has financial problems…the list goes on.  What difference do you think that would make in young man’s life?  I think you would agree it would make all the difference in the world.

Hopefully, as you have been reading this challenge of starting a mentoring program, you realize what an important ministry this is.  Maybe this idea has already been on your heart for the middle and high school guys in your church.  Maybe you’ve felt like we are losing them, but you didn’t know what to do or how to do it.

Start a mentoring program in your church…it’s your mission field and the time to act is now.  That fatherless young man in your church can’t wait another six months or a year; we may lose him by then.  He needs a mentor now…ASAP! Men need to be made aware of the need and what they can personally do about it.  Mentoring programs should be in every church, big or small.

Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world” – James 1:27

Don’t know exactly where to start?  Let me help. This has been my passion for years and I’ve seen lives changed through mentoring.  Contact me through our website at or  Let’s get started!

“We owe it to our children to do better by them. We urgently need to address      the twin problems of fatherlessness and family breakdown. Until we tackle these problems, our children and our societies will continue to suffer.”                Chief Justice Leah Ward Sears, Georgia Supreme Court